As women, we often look at our significant others and try to convince ourselves, "They don't love me anymore." The excitement and romance of those first few months or years has worn off and it's just not the same. Before you break your own heart, take another look.
It's normal for things to cool off when you have been together awhile. The heart and mind can not exist in a perpetual state of heightened excitement. You find yourselves falling into patterns.
By all means, shake things up a little now and then by trying something new. You can have a date night, go for a spontaneous ride, try a new recipe together; just don't assume the romance is over.
Some people are good about saying, "I love you." Others are not. Some times we look at the lack of grand romantic gestures and the lack of declarations of love as proof that they don't love as anymore.
Not so fast. Let's just try something before you make any decisions.
Instead of looking for proof that they don't love you--"They never say it anymore." or "They never notice when I dress up."--look for proof that they do.
My husband always puts an extra blanket on me if he gets up before I do in the morning. He does this because he knows I am always cold and because he loves me. As I was working on this post, he brought me a water because he knows I like to drink at least eight glasses of a day and because he loves me.
Does yours kill spiders for you? Do they change the oil or clean the snow off your car? Do they rub your back when you have trouble sleeping or take the kids outside when you have a headache? It is because they love you. Before you make any decisions or tell yourself any stories, look for the little things they do just because they love you. You might just be surprised by what you see.
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