Thursday, August 27, 2015

Sometimes You Have To Move To Move On

Any one who has ever been told to just let it go or to get over it knows that it is not nearly that easy. Some times you are faced every day with reminders. You see your ex at the grocery store or the person who got your promotion every day at work. The adult grown up thing to do is get over it but inside we are all children in some way.

Some times the most adult responsible thing is not what you need to do to heal and move on.

Some times you need to do the childish thing and get away from it.

Maybe your ex invited you to their wedding. You don't want to seem bitter or like you are not over them so you force your self to go. Don't do it. There is nothing wrong with refusing to put yourself through it.

Maybe you live in a small town and the object of your misery crosses your path constantly. If it hurts you, then there is nothing wrong with leaving.

You can change gyms, change jobs or even addresses if that is what your heart needs. I'm not saying to screw up your future by leaving a good job or your dream home. I am saying to think about whether you are happy there. Do you really like that gym or have you just always gone there? Does that job suit you or is it just a paycheck?

Maybe you need to look for another job or another apartment. Maybe you need to give yourself permission to move where you are in your life so you can move on in your heart.

Monday, August 24, 2015

A Promise Should Always Be Kept

I have a big problem with broken promises. I admit it is partly my own personal history so some may say that I bring my own personal baggage to it but I don't think that it makes a broken promise any better.
If you promise to do something, you should do so with the full intention of carrying through. If you only think you can do it, than say so. If you have no intention of doing it, then say so.
"I promise" should be a sworn oath. It should mean something. It should stand on its own and stand tall.
Things happen sometimes. Life intrudes. Mistakes happen and sometimes through no fault of your own, you can not complete or keep your promise. That is different. That is understandable.
What drives me to distraction is those people that use promise when they mean maybe or say promise but then break that promise because they just did not feel like following through or because there wasn't enough in it for them. Whether the promise is flat out spoken or heavily implied--for example, yes, I will do that or yes, you can do that--it is still a promise.
Don't break you promise.
Don't be that person.
Don't be that inconsiderate, selfish, obnoxious person.
Be the kind of person that your word is solid. Your word has weight and meaning and depth. Let your grave stone list you as a person who could always be relied upon. I can think of no better epitaph than to be a good person who could be relied upon.